I divorced my phone for a week...

Hi  sorry for the silent treatment have you ever really really really really wanted something. Wished on every star and missed every crack in the pavement? Blown out on every dandelion you've come across?

   Wanting something is really easy, but what happens if you get the thing you want. You reach your goal? What if it wasn't quite what you wanted or imagined it to be... I think as people and as a person myself (I know how descriptive of me) we invest a lot of our own happiness in obtaining things. Whether it be a job, a partner or personal goal. Sometimes we can be too busy investing our time in things like these which may have a bitter sweet taste. It's not at all bad to have goals but I know personally my expectations of people and experiences are high, and telling myself to "lower my expectations" is much easier said than done especially when every time i check facebook I see peoples 'perfect lives' and think why isn't mine like that?
     Isn't it time we focused on our more inward goals than outward? Stop worrying about the Facebook life and start thinking about what goes on behind the little screen? Because I believe it is I set myself these goals and look outwards rather than inwards because thats what social media rate as 'important goals' how many selfies with my hot date, me filling in where I work on facebook with pride wanting to show off.... Sharing all my news and me at different events, clearly not making the most as I still somehow find time to post a photo, right?!
   Now it's very easy for me to dictate how shallow and bad this is and I hold my hands up and admit I am a hypocrite. But I thought I'd try life without it, and at least give my thumbs a break from scrolling... Trail separation from my phone for one whole WEEK.

Day 1- This was totally fine, my hands did feel weird not constantly checking facebook, instagram and twitter to see what the gossip was. But actually felt pretty good, and nice to say "Oh no i didn't bring my phone with me... Wanted to enjoy the experience without seeing it through a screen (I was at a festival)" Apart from the occasional want to post a selfie or to check twitter I held up, almost rolling my eyes at the people on there phones pitying their need to communicate with those not directly in front of them.

Day 2- God people on their phones are rude. Like hello I'm right here stop stalking Kim Kardashian and look me in the eyes when I talk to you, whatever happened to conversation clearly it's a dying art. I feel good having risen above it sitting in the sun shine not getting neck ache as a enjoy the atmosphere around me. I try telling my friends how much more liberated I feel from the Facebook chain their reply:

Day 3 -  Still feeling good, wondering how many messages I'll recieve when i get home does make me smile but that's not the point. It's like breaking up with an ex with the idea of returning to them in a week... Not the right idea. To top things off I'm missing all these secrets acts for the festival leaked on to twitter so having to find out off other people, but since my hands do not hold the phone this doesn't count right? RIGHT?...

Day 4 - I wonder what my followers are thinking? Maybe should tweet to show I'm alive.. NO resist. The Facebook claws are in deep and as soon as I thought their grip was loosening the crept up on me and squeezed tighter (uh-oh)

Day 5 - I caved, DON'T LOOK AT ME LIKE THAT! I wanted to talk to people that weren't the same three I'd been spending the last 5 days with pretty much 24/7... On my knees I begged for my friends phone she smirked and passed it to me. The lightness of it's touch and familiar feeling of typing was nothing short of ecstasy. Man it felt good i could see the steam rising off my thumbs. Now was not the right time to admit I had a problem.

The other two days were much the same, but I realised something. I didn't need to be separated from my phone 24/7 for ever, I just needed to give it some space sometimes. Stop filming the gig and actually watch it, (Also who films a gig, do you intend to watch it later? Is the gig itself not a good time for you to actually watch it? Someone explain please.)

I have to separate myself from Facebook world, if people have time to upload every waking minute of their lives to snapchat/facebook/twitter are the enjoying it. I don't know about you but the best days are the ones I have no photographic or written evidence of, because I was too busy enjoying it. This just reminds me to take everything i see with a pinch of salt, if you've got time to upload then you're clearly not making the most! Let me know your thoughts you lil humbugs, keep smiling and for gods sake put down your phone and talk to someone ;)

                                                                                                 M x

My name is Martha-Rose, and I am lost in wonderland...

My first blog post is inspired by  the words of Alice from Lewis Carrolls "Alice In Wonderland", when in utter despair she exclaims 'I give myself very good advice but I very seldom follow it .That explains the trouble that I'm always in '...

    I really connect with this saying, anyone else agree that saying things and following them is never that easy?!
       Take it when you have found yourself in a troubling situation with someone perhaps of the opposite(or same) sex. (HAVEN'T WE ALL). You always think that you will be that exception that you can and WILL fix whatever needs to be done, and god bless you for thinking that. But realistically you probably aren't going to be able to.....(someone had to say it, don't hate me.)

   
So yeah, put down the wine and read on dear ones... I recently had this weird deja vu  experience while pondering with a few friends, (and yes alcohol) why relationship can sometimes be the most sucky thing in the whole of suckdom. One of my Friends being in a spookily eerie situation which very much mirrored my own one in previous years. Yep a boy not wanting a relationship and a girl wanting one.  Wanting one BAD.
   
   I heard myself say "He's not worth it", "You can't make someone want what you want" and the kicker "If you're being secretive and hiding what you're doing you know in your heart (IN YOUR HEART) that it is wrong." I felt like the biggest hypocrite in the world.

 Why do we do this? Why do i do this? Offer up advice which I know is right, but in my own case, I don't follow it.
     Of course people learn from mistakes and personal experiences, but why is it we can't simply listen to the things our friends or loved ones tell us... We feel the need to sit there and nod and cry a little and say "Yes, you're so right. So wise.. Ci, ydy, oui, oui." BUT then of course, we do what we want anyway. Even though the outcomes are rarely good ones.

  Is it self sabotage? Or do we really believe that we can change our situations?! That if we can persist and persevere enough to make something happen it will.. That we all will get what we want. But my darling little chick peas, can I carry on my hypocritical advice giving?! (Don't groan too loudly)
                                            You are all worth more. 

My good friend once told me that we all deserve to be adored, and if we aren't adored by that person then they're not the right fit. And we all really do, that guy, girl or friend isn't worth it. Someone will come along who is,so don't waste your time on wasters... and maybe occasionally listen to the advice you give others. You'll be surprised by your own wisdom.

My suggestion, (not that you'll listen) write down every bit of advice you've ever given or been given. Even the silly things your Gran told you about taking your coat off when your inside or, "You won't feel the benefit when you go out." You'll honestly be surprised at all the wisdom you know or have been given. And maybe next time (we all know its going to happen) Both you and I can listen to our own advice.... But till then keep smiling my darlings, we are all lost in wonderland and if it's meant to be it will be. 

This week Maisie is loving:

• Banana shampoo (nearly good enough to eat it smells so good)
• Hudson Taylors FIRST ALBUM -Singing for Strangers
• Taking New York finale (GREAT TWIST)
• The sun finally making an appearance, a sign that things get brighter.

ALL MY LOVE, till next time

                   M x